Whore Tells Us About Their Whore Girlfriend Problems…

I don’t know what to do about her!

Let’s call her Friend A.

We were best friends and totally inseparable up until a few years ago. Then I set her up with a friend of mine, and things got serious very quickly, and I started seeing someone too, which also got serious very quickly!

So we started drifting apart. We stopped telling each other things, the way women in unhappy (controlling) relationships do. Her relationship ended while I was still in mine, and she stopped talking to me completely. Then for the last year of mine, although I had other friends to turn to, I felt like I was missing something… My best friend.

I moved on… I met someone new (Friend B). She’s funny, kind, caring and she understands and respects my boundaries, as I do hers. We’d been through a similar hell before we met a couple of years ago and it feels like she’s always been there, even though she’s still relatively new.

I decided to reach out to Friend A during lockdown. She was appreciative of our renewed friendship, and so was I. But I feel like she doesn’t want me to be happy unless she is somehow the source of happiness or included in the receiving of the happiness or in a happy place herself before I’m in a happy place myself.

I don’t talk to her about Friend B, but she’s seen things on social media and I’ve got the impression that now she (Friend A) doesn’t think I make enough effort to see her. Jealousy was one of the reasons we’d drifted apart while we were in our relationships… Or more accurately: me having other friends and other social circles (the scene, work colleagues, stitch-n-bitches) was the reason she felt replaced/displaced and isolated.

Now I’m in a tricky situation. Friend A, as much as I love her, is making me anxious as hell. She’s doing that thing where I’ve sent her a perfectly happy text, albeit a slightly long text, and she has replied to me twice to tell me she’s busy but will reply to the long text soon.

I have this horrible feeling that she wants to rain on my parade. This summer, although she’s been supportive when I’ve had really bad days, as I have with her, she’s been picking holes at my happiness. Her insecurities and self doubt have become my insecurities and self doubt.

I don’t know what to do! I’m in that tricky situation where I feel like she knows too much. I feel like I can’t calmly ask her not to pick holes at my life. We’re all doing the best we can. And I have changed a lot in the time that we weren’t together/talking. I’ve discovered the Law of Attraction, I’ve become more positive, I’ve started valuing myself higher, and I’ve stopped limiting my potential.

I love Friend A but I don’t know how to have healthy boundaries with her, and I’m losing sleep.